How you think and feel about yourself affects your performance as well as how others view you. Many of your self images include your psychological self, social self, sexual self, familial self, and coping self. These self images are very important to having a healthy and happy outlook and experience throughout life. My self image is not the greatest but it is not the worst either.

First off is my psychological self. I must admit that I personally do not like my body. I have been struggling with my weight and the appearance of my body my whole life. Growing up, my dad always called me fat and that has always been an issue with me, especially now that he passed away a little less than a year ago. Sometimes I am in control of myself and sometimes I am not. Most of the time I can control myself from doing stupid things, but sometimes I do stupid things like starving myself or making jealous comments. My wishes are to graduate college and get a job. Of course I’d like to meet someone and get married but for now I think I will settle with getting a good job to support myself.

Next is social self. I think that I am friendly and I hope that others feel the same way. I always try to be nice to everyone because I feel that no one should be left out. I think that people like me. I have a close group of friends and that is really important to me. All through high school I had extremely high morals but then this past summer I started dating a guy. We did not have sex but we did do things that now I do not approve of and I regret. At first I thought I had horrible morals but then I realized that I still do have good morals but they sometimes slip.
Now this leads to the next self image of my sexual self. I feel that sex is a very big step in a relationship and should be taken seriously. I personally have not had sex and would like to wait till I am married. I feel that it is an act that should only be done with someone you love because I feel that sex bonds two people together forever. I think that pornography is not very appropriate. Yes I am sexually attracted to others. I am sexually attracted to my boyfriend and I would hope that he is sexually attracted to me.

Next is my familial self. I love both of my parents very much. My father passed away in September of 2003 and that has been a hard issue. All through high school I never once told him I loved him and instead always told him that I hated him which actually was the last thing I said to him before he died. That has been an issue with me because I really do love him a lot and I wish I could have told him that. My sister is like my best friend. We talk about everything and we hang out together. I feel very lucky to have her because I can go to her about anything. I love all of my relatives and I miss them. Most live out of state and I can not wait to see them all at holidays. I am sure that my mom misses both my sister and me at home. I feel that I am needed at home because I always try to help my mom out with things.

Finally is my coping self. I feel that I am very effective. I feel that I cope well with what others demand. I am in someway a people pleaser. As my mother says I have a heart of gold and I like to make others happy. I am always trying to help others. I think I do well with school demands. Sometimes though I expect too much from myself and get frustrated but then I just take and break from my school work and then I am fine again. I have always done well in school and I hope to continue that. I think I am well adjusted to my life. Some things have been extremely difficult but I feel that I have been made stronger and now I can adjust to just about anything. I also feel I am happy. I have friends, family and a boyfriend that all love me. I have accepted the decisions I have made and the events that have taken place in my life and let them make me grow stronger as an individual. Instead of beating myself up from mistakes I now can learn from them. So yes now I feel that I am happy with my life.
The five self images can really affect your life. They are extremely important in how you think of yourself as well as how others think of you. If you have a bad self image, it can make your life miserable. Having a positive self image makes your life a positive place and is very important in being happy.